How to meet single women … Tips from a professional matchmaker for dating over 40
Do you remember your first kiss?
I actually don’t remember mine (I was a late bloomer so it was probably in my late teens/ early twenties and not too far before I lost my virginity – I guess nobody told Virginia that only the good die young.) Anyway- if you were a normal teen, your first kiss was probably at a young age, awkward and sloppy, but the best thing that ever happened to you up until that point in life.
Ahhh, young love is such a nice time of life. The innocence of starting a new relationship with such optimism and enthusiasm. And, the best part is that it happens so naturally. Think about it, when a boy is 11 or 12, he’s not thinking with his brain, all his actions are driven by his hormones.
All a boy at that age needs to do is insult a girl and she automatically is told by every female authority that he likes her and that’s just his way of expressing it. (Terrible message to young girls but unfortunately accurate). Then he moves on from his teenage years and develops a little game, breaks some hearts and gets his broken too…but recovers the minute the next one comes along. Meeting single women is so much easier when you know you have your entire life ahead of you to practice.
The problems with Dating over 40
But what happens when you’re trying to find love at an older age or second time around? Dating over 40 can be difficult, especially for those who don’t know how or where to get started.
You may find yourself asking, “What are the best dating websites?” or “How can I meet single women”? Or perhaps more relevant; “how can I meet single women who are normal?”
You may tell yourself that the quality women just aren’t out there and you feel like giving up.
The Professional matchmaker tells all
Well, the good news is, dating at an older age doesn’t have to be daunting. You just need to know how to navigate the scene and where and when to get back out there.
For some, online dating is the easiest way to transition back into the dating world. But as a professional matchmaker, I hear more and more often, that online dating is actually a hindrance to finding real relationships. I’ve heard the terms: “fraud” or “bait and switch” many times when it comes to finding love online, as it often turns out not to be what you expect. Even when you expect the worst.
That’s where I come in the help and make things easy for singles to find love and serious relationships. I take the awkwardness out of dating by setting up the couple based on emotional and financial stability, attraction, morals, beliefs, religion and ethics and other things that are important to both parties. But I also do a lot of prep work both on my own as well as with the singles that I match and ensure that they are both prepared with realistic expectations of what a date should be. Date coaching is also an essential part of my service as too often people can be tainted, angry or scarred from a prior relationship and project that onto their date.
Lesson Learned
Dating over 40 doesn’t have to be a scary thing. It can be fun and adventurous when done the right way. A professional matchmaker can help ease you back in when you’ve been out of practice and find you long lasting love without any of the hassle, misleading information or awkwardness of dating apps.